Boundaries. To have or not to have?

When we tend to continuously put ourselves and our needs last, we create an imbalance that leads us to feeling frustrated with our situations and the people around us. Having boundaries does not always come easy for some as this could seem selfish or they might be afraid of disappointing others. In that fear of disappointing other people, we continue to over-give in a way that does not feel comfortable anymore, even when we feel we reached our limits. That can result in feeling tired, unhappy, and angry with ourselves and those around us, which eventually may end up in arguments because we may feel unheard or unappreciated.

Boundaries are healthy and to have boundaries it is not a selfish act. It becomes essential if we want to find an inner peace that can help us take care of the tasks that need our attention, in a more productive way.

It is OK to take care of yourself and to learn to say ‘No’ when it is necessary, to what does not support your wellbeing. When you take care of yourself in a way that you need, you can then operate from a state of balance so that it becomes easier to say ‘Yes’ more, to that which is supportive and uplifting.

What is your view on boundaries? Does it come easy for you to say ‘No’ when you know it is the right approach? Or do you find yourself in situations where you feel you continuously put yourself aside, for whatever reason?

If you would like to explore further on this subject, you will find more on this article in the free Member’s Area on my website. Here I share a few tips and self-coaching tools that can help you learn how to set healthy boundaries, if this is something you are looking for. I also share my personal experience on how I have learnt through this process, lessons of self-value and self-care, which have inspired me now to help other people do the same